Awaken the Fire

presented by Kobus van der Merwe, MPsych

Ignite Lasting Passion through the Dance of Sexual Polarity

3 Day Intensive

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Understanding Sexual Polarity: Unlock the Pulse of Lifelong Desire

When was the last time you felt that magnetic pull toward your partner - that delicious tension that made your heart race in the early days? For many couples, it's not love that fades, but the natural dance of masculine and feminine energies that once sparked such intense attraction.

This course is about rekindling that fire at its source. You'll learn how to break free from the patterns of emotional distance and routine that can gradually dull even the strongest connection.

For masculine partners, we'll explore how to move beyond surface-level confidence into true presence - the kind that comes from releasing control and embracing vulnerability. When you learn to hold space with unwavering attention, you'll be amazed at how your partner naturally opens and softens in response.

For feminine partners, we'll focus on reconnecting with your natural radiance and ability to receive. As you let go of protective walls and rediscover the art of invitation, you'll find your partner naturally drawn to move closer, eager to meet your feminine essence with his masculine presence.

This isn't about quick fixes or surface-level romance techniques. It's about returning each partner to their authentic nature, allowing sexual polarity to naturally reawaken. When you both fully embody your essential energies, attraction becomes effortless. Intimacy deepens. Playfulness returns. And instead of working to maintain desire, you'll find it flowing naturally between you, growing richer with each passing year.

Ready to transform your relationship into one where passion never fades? Join us.

Awaken the Fire: Transform Your Connection and Sexual Passion

Ready to transform your connection and reignite your passion? Watch this video to learn how our 3-day Couples Intensive can help you deepen emotional intimacy and spark vibrant sexual energy. Combining Imago Therapy with David Deida's powerful insights, you'll discover how to bring true aliveness back into your relationship.

If you are ready to go beyond emotional safety and experience passion like never before, this workshop is for you. Let us guide you in rekindling desire and presence, making your marriage a place where love and passion truly thrive.

Click play to see how you can awaken the fire in your relationship today.

Love is not something to seek—it’s what you become when you open fully, breath by breath, heart to heart.

This is for couples who are ready to awaken, deepen, and grow—those who want a relationship that doesn’t just survive but becomes a source of purpose, joy, and unstoppable love. If you’re committed to a life where intimacy becomes an art, where love is lived fully and unapologetically, this journey is for you.

This intensive will lead you to profound transformation, breaking old patterns and unlocking the kind of relationship where intimacy becomes an endless dance of passion, depth, and love that only grows stronger with time

Kobus and Anita van der Merwe, married 32 years.

Meet Kobus van der Merwe

For over three decades, Kobus has been helping couples rediscover the magic that first brought them together. As an Imago Relationship Therapist and international trainer, he's guided thousands of partnerships from disconnect to deep intimacy, earning him recognition from relationship pioneer Harville Hendrix for his exceptional work.

What sets Kobus apart is his unique blend of approaches. He combines the emotional healing power of Imago Therapy with insights into masculine and feminine dynamics, inspired by David Deida's groundbreaking work. Having conducted over 23,000 hours of couples therapy and trained more than 1,100 therapists worldwide, Kobus creates a rare space where partners can safely explore their deepest truths. His warm presence and gentle humor help couples move beyond old wounds into genuine connection.

Who Is This For?

Couples Hungry to Rekindle Passion
– If your relationship feels numb, trapped in the dull rhythm of routine, and you yearn to feel the spark again—this intensive will reignite the fire, restoring raw desire and magnetic attraction.
Partners Craving Deeper Emotional and Physical Intimacy
– If you’re tired of surface-level interactions and want to experience real connection—where your hearts and bodies align in every moment—this journey will teach you how to sync emotional depth with physical passion.
Those Ready to Embrace Their Masculine and Feminine Essence
– If you’ve lost touch with your true nature—whether the steady presence of the masculine or the radiant flow of the feminine—this course will guide you back to your essence and show you how to express it boldly.
Couples Struggling with Miscommunication and Disconnect
– If you find yourselves misunderstood or emotionally out of sync, this program will teach you to meet each moment with love, humor, and presence, dissolving barriers and opening to connection.
Anyone Committed to a Lifelong, Passionate Relationship
– Whether you’ve been together for years or are building a new partnership, this intensive will give you the tools to sustain intimacy, create unwavering trust, and cultivate passion that grows stronger with time.

How This Intensive Will Work

This isn't your typical relationship workshop. From the moment you begin, you'll move beyond theory into real, lived experience. Through simple yet powerful practices involving breath, eye contact, and gentle touch, you'll shed the noise of daily life and rediscover each other in the present moment.

We'll alternate between teaching and hands-on practice, creating a natural rhythm that helps both partners embody their authentic nature. Some moments will be soft and tender, others playful and passionate. Each interaction becomes a chance to see yourself and your partner more clearly, growing together with warmth and openness.

You'll have time for both individual reflection and partner work, learning to ground in your own experience before bringing that awareness into connection. Every practice builds on the last, helping you break free from old patterns and rediscover the natural chemistry between you.

How You Will Transform as Lovers

A Deeper Kind of Love

Many couples start out like waves on the surface - clashing personalities, tangled emotions, each trying to hold onto the other in ways that create friction. Through this work, you'll discover something deeper. Instead of gripping tightly, you'll learn to flow together, tapping into a connection that feels both ancient and new.

The masculine partner will find freedom not in distance, but in deep presence - fully there for both life and love. The feminine partner will discover that true radiance comes not from seeking love, but from being love. Together, you'll learn to dance with resistance rather than fight it, turning moments of tension into opportunities for play and deeper connection.

You'll move beyond questions like "Do you love me enough?" or "Am I doing this right?" Instead of seeking completion, you'll learn to give from wholeness. Every touch, glance, and moment together becomes an expression of love that's already full and flowing.

What you will achieve with this couples intensive:

Emotional Connection That Lasts
Learn to connect deeply through eye contact, touch, shared breath, and grounded presence. Your partner will feel seen, valued, and loved, even during challenging moments.
Understanding Masculine and Feminine Dynamics
Recognize and embody your core energy—whether masculine presence or feminine flow. Strengthen attraction and intimacy by aligning with your authentic self.
Breaking Negative Relationship Cycles
Shift from frustration to understanding by honoring the feminine need for love and the masculine drive for purpose. Turn moments of doubt into opportunities for connection.
Turning Resistance into Intimacy
Meet resistance with patience and humor instead of defensiveness. Transform conflict into a playful and intimate exchange.
Creating Sexual Polarity
Cultivate passion by balancing your energies. Embrace your natural depth, lightness, or intensity to spark desire and enhance intimacy.
Letting Go of Tension
Relax physically and emotionally. Breathe with your partner to dissolve barriers and create a free-flowing connection.
Experiencing True Togetherness
Use physical and emotional intimacy to bridge separation. Deepen your bond through shared vulnerability and presence.
Bringing Passion to Everyday Life
As a masculine partner, act with purpose. As a feminine partner, radiate love. Together, turn every moment into an opportunity for deeper connection and mutual growth.

"Every interaction will be a mirror—reflecting back the truths you need to see, asking you to meet your partner with love, humor, and the willingness to grow beyond what you thought was possible."

Your Investment in Lifelong Passion

3 Week days

R 30 000 per couple

3 Days (Weekend)

R 35 000

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"Repair the Pain, Awaken the Fire: A 5-Day Imago and Sexual Polarity Intensive."

This 5-day intensive combines the healing framework of Imago Relationship Therapy with practices that reignite passion through sexual polarity. You’ll start by addressing the pain that has shaped your relationship—unresolved wounds, unmet needs, and emotional disconnections. Using Imago Dialogue, you’ll practice deep listening and authentic communication, rebuilding trust and creating a safe, connected foundation. From this place of healing, you’ll shift focus to rekindling desire by embracing the interplay of masculine presence and feminine radiance. Each day alternates between emotional repair and embodied polarity practices, turning tension into passion and resistance into connection. By releasing old patterns, you’ll rediscover your ability to bring emotional depth and erotic energy to your relationship, blending healing with play to create a connection that is both secure and exciting. Whether you want to restore intimacy or deepen an already strong bond, this intensive offers tools to create lasting love and passion.

5 Day Imago Couples Intensive + Awaken the Fire Intensive Combination

5 Week days

R 50 000 per couple

5 Days (including over Weekend)

R 55 000

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It is the art of living fully, already complete, celebrating the radiant beauty of this moment through your connection, your bodies, your hearts.

Got Questions?

Will we be required to have sex in front of the facilitator?

No. This intensive focuses on intimacy through presence, connection, and polarity exercises. All practices respect your comfort and boundaries, with no explicit physical interactions.

How is this different from a workshop?

This is a private experience involving only you, your partner, and the facilitator. Sessions are tailored to your relationship, allowing for personalized guidance and deeper breakthroughs.

Do we need experience with intimacy or polarity practices?

No prior experience is needed. The intensive is designed to meet you where you are, guiding you step by step through exercises to strengthen connection and desire.

What if we’ve been emotionally distant or struggling to communicate?

This intensive helps couples reconnect by addressing emotional distance and improving communication. Through guided exercises, you’ll transform frustration into understanding and intimacy.

What if one of us feels nervous or unsure about participating?

Nervousness is normal. The process takes place in a private, safe space, respecting your boundaries. Participation is always optional, with each practice offered as an invitation.

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